Emotional Pro

Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelley Hunt are names known worldwide when people discuss intimate relationships. Authors of a number of books, including Getting the Love You Want, they talk about the unconscious purpose of mutual healing, wholeness and social transformation that can now occur through marriage. In contrast to marriage in the past, which was about survival and socio-political dynamics, the new marriage generates a new way to love that heals people and transforms society. Harville Hendrix says, "We like to talk about how to have that kind of relationship."

Segment 1: The Imago as Basis for Mate Selection
Harville Hendrix and Helen L. Hunt explain how it is that each of us develops an "Imago" (Latin for "image") as we grow up, that we use as the unconscious basis for mate selection as adults. Helen gives methods for how we can begin to identify our own Imago so we can use the information to start moving toward "conscious marriage," or "Marriage of the Future." How our Imago creates problems in marriage, as we learn, over time, that the picture of our partner we have in our head isn’t really the person our partner is!

Segment 2: Power Struggles and How to Find the Way Through
The power struggle that inevitably occurs as most intimate relationships exit the "romance" era is reframed by Harville and Helen. To them it provides great opportunity for self and mutual healing and is the "opening" for creating conscious relationship, ultimately resulting in the two people becoming "Passionate Friends." Harville discusses how we can come to dislike traits that initially draw us to our mate, and how to involve ourselves in "Dialogue" as a way of building Conscious Relationship. Helen talks about how anger and fear can impact intimate relationships and how to move past negative impact.

Segment 3: Visions for the World Filled with Conscious Relationships
A caller prompts Helen and Harville to address the "person" issues in relationships, as opposed to "male" or "female" issues. Helen explains very simple and loving steps of conversation that can open the door for your mate to feel safe with you, so that negative Imago issues can be healed. Harville describes their vision for what can happen when more and more couples and families work with the Imago relationship model, which people are now doing in 28 different countries!