Nov 10, Ilene Dillon, MSW: Disappointment & Failed Expectations!

November 10th, 2016

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What Do You “Take” for Dashed Expectations? Getting off the roller coaster of “ups” and “downs” with our emotions is a challenging task for us humans. Add to that the idea that we largely do this to ourselves, and it can be even more challenging and frustrating! It just might come down to a matter of how we learned to handle dashed expectations in our very early life. We tend to repeat the emotional patterns of the first 7 years of our lives during our adult living. If you were given a distraction, told “you’ll get over it,” offered some food, allowed to stay home from school for the day—and so forth—you’ll tend to repeat those patterns now that you’re an adult. We’re going through a time that offers us an opportunity to look at the way we handle ourselves when things don’t turn out the way we wanted, when we encounter disappointment, and when it’s time to live our lives even though things are not as we really, really wanted them to be. Let’s explore this together!

The elections have occurred. Did they all turn out the way you wanted—the way you expected? Did those you supported do enough to win their contest? Did YOU do enough? Are you angry at what others did; angry with yourself for not doing all you could do? Are you ready to leave the country; or are you ready to celebrate your country and its new leaders? What are you going to do with your feelings of disappointment, of sadness, or of joy? This year’s elections offer us a wonderful opportunity to look at how we develop expectations, what we do to support (or not support) what we want in life, and how we handle things when what we had been hoping for doesn’t materialize. Longtime Psychotherapist Ilene Dillon is looking at this issue this week.

 

 

Oct 27, Victoria Bentley: Surprising Causes of Anxiety and Panic

October 21st, 2016

dr-victoria-bentley-psydWant to End Toxic Anxiety Forever? As my husband, Bob, wound his way through his struggle with cancer, worry and anxiety were his biggest book-the-surprising-causes-of-anxiety-and-panicenemies. With a wife who is a psychotherapist, close friends and care givers who were warm-hearted, experienced and spiritually-oriented, we all tried to help him move past worry and anxiety. We wanted him to end it forever; but we were able only to help him get, at most, a couple of days of peace. He seemed to have a “reset” button. He’d do well and then he would boomerang back to his previous level of anxiety and worry. Know anyone who is like this? Tell them about this show, and listen yourself.

All those ads for drugs on television! Do any of them actually end toxic anxiety? Or do they just manage the symptoms. Psychologist Dr. Victoria Bentley offers Anxiety Free Living, a book series aimed at helping people end toxic anxiety and heal trauma completely, using down-to-earth, simple solutions gleaned from 40 years’ experience healing anxiety. We’re talking about  “Why You’re Not Getting Better After Trying Everything” on this weeks’ show. Stress (which builds up when you experience anxiety) is one of our biggest health problems today. Click here to visit Dr. Victoria Bentley’s facebook page!

Dr. Victoria also invites you to please visit her site to have a glimpse on the endeavors of her organization in helping women victims of sexual violence in Eastern Democratic Republic of Congo: http://empowercongowomen.org. Thank you!

 

October 20, Chase Baliey, Chase ‘N Yur Face: Cooking on YouTube

October 21st, 2016

HeadshotsGood Nutrition—and Creativity—Can Help with Autism! Don’t you just love the double meaning of this young man’s YouTube show and cookbook? Every one of us has challenges in life. But, as my friend,
motivational speaker W. Mitchell, has said, “It’s not what happens to you that matters; it’s what you do about it.” The delight of Chase Bailey is that he has moved past many of the problems of his book-chase-n-yur-face“diagnosis” by listening to, and following, the messages of his heart. And he’s done it with the enthusiasm of youth, looking for what is possible instead of for what he “can’t do”. I really look forward to talking with him.

What if you were diagnosed with Autism as a toddler, had food aversions that left you with only five foods you could eat? What would you do? Well, at the precious age of 8, Chase Bailey was inspired to start learning about cooking. With the help of his Mom, he also began a cooking show on YouTube, inviting celebrity chefs to come help him cook. That has led to the publication of his cook book, and the startup of a Foundation to help others with autism. All of this has happened in a few short years. Chase Bailey is 15 years old. Come hear all that he has done, and even more importantly, what following his heart and inspiration has done for him! Click here to visit Chase Bailey’s website!

Oct 13: Eric Walrabenstein: Waging Inner Peace: Vets & PTSD

October 15th, 2016

eric-walrabenstein-1Emotions of Trauma Can Be Healed. When I saw the promise: “How 5000 Veterans Used the Ancient Secrets of Yoga and Mindfulness to Reclaim Their Lives from Stress, and How You Can, Too” I acted to bring the developer and director of book-waging-inner-peaceOperation Boot Strap to Full Power Living. If PTSD from war can be eased using this approach, think what it can do for all of us! Eric is a former U.S. Army infantry officer. I’m really looking forward to learning from Eric about his proven methodology for applying mind-body wisdom to eradicate stress.

When you are fighting in a war, you don’t have time to stop and process your emotions. Instead, you witness one horrible thing after another, experience one scary thing after another, and suppress your emotions, in the interest of staying alive. When the war is over, there is a pile of emotional energy backed up inside. If it doesn’t get released, human beings can develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Today’s veterans have seen more than one tour of duty, which has exposed them to a LOT of tragedy and horror. They need help releasing this built-up emotional energy. Eric Walrabenstein has found some ways to do this, using modern approaches, such as Mindfulness. This week, he shares his discoveries. Click here to visit Eric Walrabenstein’s website!

Oct 6, Ora Nadrich: Says Who? (Just One Simple Question)

October 9th, 2016

Oct 6, Ora Nadrich: Says Who? (Just One Simple Question)

oranadrichUse One Question to Get Yourself to a New Place. As a psychotherapist with over 44 years of experience, I have noted that one of the most book-says-who-ora-nadrichdifficult things for human beings to do is to move themselves from where they are, over to where they want to be! “I want to be thinner.” “I want to be richer.” “I want to be more compassionate.” “I want to be more positive.” This week’s guest, Ora Nadrich, is sharing how asking just ONE question can move us from negative to positive! I like this type of solution, don’t you? I’m looking forward to all I’ll be learning from her. Come along!

Most people are aware that studies show human beings think far more “negative thoughts” than “positive thoughts.” If this is so, and if what we pay attention to is what we become, then it becomes imperative for us to move away from thinking negatively and spend more of our time and attention on the positive. How do we move over to the positive? Nadrich says by asking “just one simple question.” She says it takes more than just being aware of our issues and fears to tackle them an bring them under our direction. This week, Ora Nadrich talks with me about what it does take to move ourselves from our usual focus on the negative and move into a focus on the positive. Think positively! Click here to visit Ora Nadrich’s website!

 

Sept 29, Luke Adler: Heal Yourself, Heal the World

September 30th, 2016

luke-adlerWhat Makes Healing an “Inside Job”? Actually, in my learning, ALL of life is an “inside job”. In one way, that makes things difficult. But in others, it streamlines book-born-to-healeverything. That’s because it means that the ONLY person we need to work with and change is our own self! Once we create change in ourselves, change occurs outside. My guest this week, Luke Adler, applies this principle in the areas of emotional and physical healing, telling us that once we heal ourselves, we progress to healing our world. Powerful message.

Luke Adler brings a combination of training in acupuncture and Chinese medicine, with an early spiritual awakening to his service with his fellow human beings. He believes that because the process of healing is archetypal, we most frequently follow a path of healing our own self, then turning around and healing others. This is how we come to “heal the world.” Adler’s book is based on the belief that physical and emotional dysfunction originate from disconnection from our spiritual essence. He’ll be offering us specific exercises to help us reconnect to our own spiritual essence. If you are ill, or you’re healthy and want to stay that way, tune in this Thursday to discover proven ways to move yourself toward full health, than bring others along with you! Click here to visit Luke Adler’s website!